A tiny place in the middle of America called, "Novelty, Ohio"

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If you would like to get on track for 2009 (or back on track) and if you'd like to get personalized and expert advice, then you're in luck!

Until March 15th, we're offering a special zero cost, ‘2009 Goals & Resolutions Tune Up' planning and goal setting session for a limited number of people. Here's the scoop...


*** 2009 Goals & Resolutions Tune Up Session ***

You can get a personal session 1-on-1 where we will work together to...

=> Clarify your vision for 2009
=> Identify key strategic 'mile-stone' objectives
=> Uncover hidden challenges and blind spots that
could be sabotaging your success
=> Leave this session renewed, inspired, and re-energized

If you would like to be one of the few people to have one of these special sessions, please send a message with answers to the questions below...

Please tell us about yourself...

1. What is your name?

2. What is your phone number?

3. What time on Tuesday through Thursday would be good for you to meet? (Please include your time zone.)

After you send a message with your answers to these questions, we will get back to you to set up your ' Goals & Resolutions Tune Up' planning and goal setting session.

If you have any questions about this, or if there is anything we can do to serve you or support you in any way, please let us know.

Take care,
Doug Miller & Associates

http://www.coachdoug.com

Integral Theory and Integral Coaching:

Gill Getz's video "Integral Approach Elevator Pitch" on YouTube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q757cvvA9bE

PDF File: Introduction to Integral Theory and Practice
http://www.katalpa.be/documenten/introintegraltheory.pdf

Integral Coaching Canada website:
http://integralcoachingcanada.com/

Integral Life - online portal for all things integral:
http://integrallife.com/

Article on coaching:
http://wholelifetimes.com/2008/11/tunein0811.html

Integral Coaching Canada presents at the Santa Monica Center for Integral Living (Feb 19th):
http://tinyurl.com/cl7smz

PLEASE COMMENT BELOW!
Thank you...
Doug Miller
http://www.coachdoug.com

We are thrilled and excited to invite you to our upcoming FREE monthly Guest Event Workshops with DOUG MILLER!

Our intention is for you to experience Doug Miller's coaching first-hand.  Also, it is our vision to contribute to you and make a difference in your life. (Yes, we mean you!)

Beginning in January 2009, each workshop will have a theme, and you will be presented with opportunities to learn, grow and evolve while getting to know Doug as a coach.
 
These workshops are also great opportunities for you to introduce Doug to your friends and colleagues.  As you may already know, we rely on your referrals to build and grow our business.
 
We will host two workshops each month:  one in person, here in Los Angeles and one virtually, over the phone.
 
So, please accept our warm invitation, join Doug Miller and evolve yourself!
 
Here are the details for the January Guest Event Workshops.  Click on one of the links below to register.
 
"Living A Values Driven Life"
 
FREE GUEST EVENT WORKSHOP (In person):
Date: Wednesday, January 14th, 2009
Time: 7:30 PM (Pacific Standard Time)
Location: Provided upon registration completion
                (15 minutes north of LAX)
Duration: 90 minutes
CLICK HERE TO REGISTER
 
 
FREE GUEST EVENT WORKSHOP (TeleClass):
Date: Thursday, January 15th, 2009
Time: 4:00 PM (Pacific Standard Time)
Dial: Provided upon registration completion
Duration: 90 minutes
CLICK HERE TO REGISTER
 
 
After attending this Guest Event Workshop you will:

• Create more grace and ease in your life by living your values
• Make better decisions, faster and easier
• Authentically express yourself (be more fully you)
• Understand and work with others more effectively
• Add more depth, insight, and understanding to your mission, vision, and purpose in life

During the Guest Event Workshop you will:

• Discover your top 5 values
• Interact with other participants (build your network)
• Raise your awareness and insight through reflection
• Engage in a unique, systematic and proven process
• Have fun!

 
Additionally, special pricing and packages are offered on all Doug Miller Services to those who attend the Free Guest Event Workshops. 

We look forward to seeing you SOON!

The most important part of being at peace is having a clear mind. Once your mind is clear you are able to direct it where you want it to go rather than chase it around like a hyper puppy off its leash.

Most of us really have no idea how much stuff is jammed into our heads until we give ourselves the time and space to let it bubble up and out of the chaos of our subconscious. Have you ever tried to [read more]. 

I am now regularly blogging over at Lime.com.  Here is the begining of a post that just went up this week. 

What would you do to get what you want?  In this picture you can get a sense of what my five-year-old son, Jack, went through to find where the Halloween candy was hidden. (Hint: it's the open cupboard door at the top of the picture.)

I was blown away watching Jack's multiple attempts to get to his jackpot, the candy. What I loved witnessing was how quickly he... (click here to read more)


You can see all my Lime.com posts by clicking here.

Pop over to the magazine Whole Life Times (also known as Conscious Choice, Gaia, and Common Ground in various cities) and read an article featuring my coaching. 

http://wholelifetimes.com/2008/11/tunein0811.html

I would love to hear your thoughts on the article.  I would also love to share any of the developmental theory that is lingering in the background of the coaching work i do. 

I head off to Washington, DC next week for more training in an integral coaching process that is blowing my mind.  Let me know if you want to hear more about it.  I would love to share.

Be well,
Doug  


PS: The picture is of my three year old son making a gingerbread house.  Yes, as you can see, he is a rascal. 

My first thought was the anticipation, the stress, and the excitement of waiting for my first child to be born.  It called me forward to be more of a man, a husband, a father, and a spiritual warrior.  The situation demanded that I surrender all expectations and open my heart... doing my best to love every moment of the journey. 

And the pay off? 

Brings tears to my eyes remembering that moment...  holding my child for the first time... seeing the look in my wife's eyes as she welcomed him to her chest...  the delight of his cries...  Hmmm.... 

Causes me to wonder what life would be like if I took these thoughts into my everyday opportunities to wait...  in traffic jams... in doctor's offices... standing at the front door waiting for my sons (yes we had another)...  for my wife...  Hmmm... That is a nice invitation. 

Hi,

Here are my two boys.  They have been wearing their costumes since they got them... everyday.  We will see if they hold up until Halloween. 

Here is one possible costume for me.  What do you think?

Ya, I agree.  I better go with being Bob's dad Robert.   :) 

As a dad, I have a very interesting perspective on why we (as adults) resist sharing our sorrow.  One of my learning edges with my two sons is allowing emotional expression - one of which is sorrow. 

I am often surprised by how triggered I get by their emotions.  I have had a tremendous amount of personal healing just being with my own discomfort.  In many ways, it has given me more ability to be with my own emotions... 

The knee jerk reaction was to do something or say something to STOP their emotional expression.  Then there is the social pressure I feel from the culture.  "Hey, can't you get your kid to shut up!  I am trying to...(fill in the blank)." 

Three different resources gave me the information, training, and the learning environment to shift this reaction and really start to honor the emotions of my boys. 

Here are the three resources:
- Resources for Infant Education - www.rie.org
- Patty Wipfler's pamphlets/booklets
- Playmountain Place - a humanistic school (preschool through elementary)  

One knee jerk reaction is to attempt to reason with them.  I would launch into some explanation around why it is not reasonable to give them what they want - THEREFORE you should stop expressing those emotions... 

The next knee jerk reaction I found myself doing was... (I really hate to admit this one) was to give them what they wanted. 

Another good knee jerk reaction was to out express them.  I would get more upset then they were in an attempt get them to stop.

And finally there was the "if I ignore it, it will go away" knee jerk reaction. 

What I have come to learn and experience is that kids can't think when they are feeling emotions.  All capacity to reason and think is shut off.  AND ALL they TRULY need is CONNECTION.  Connecting to another human being creates safety and allows the emotions to "clear" so they can then think straight. 

I wrote a great article that documents this happening in the back seat of my car sitting on the side of the road.  Go over to Yogi Times.

When I am out in the world today, I have so much compassion for the parents of a child that is caught in the tangle of an emotional explosion.  The parents just don't know what to do to effectively deal with the child.  I watch them repeatedly over power the child forcing them to shut off thier emotions.  Slowly training them to ignore what they are feeling.  Or that thier feelings are "inappropriate".  OUCH! 

So, why don't we share our sorrow?  My proposition is that we are trained to hide, stuff, and ignore our emotions as children.  

What do you think?